How to Hold Boundaries with Family During the Holidays as a New Parent
Welcome to the wonderful world of parenting during the holiday season! As new parents, you're navigating joy, sleepless nights, and festive gatherings. It's a magical time, but it can also be overwhelming. That’s why we're here to help you set boundaries and find the balance that allows you to enjoy the holidays without wanting to lock yourself away in the back room.
Now, let’s get started with our favorite one-letter sentence…
Just Say No
Get ready to embrace the power of 'no.'
As a new parent, you don't have to be a holiday superhero, attending every gathering and event. It's perfectly acceptable to decline invitations from friends and family alike. Sure, you might have loved Uncle Bob's Christmas Eve party in the past, but a shift in priorities is normal, and often necessary when a little one joins the family.
Remember, it's okay to keep a schedule. Declining an invitation doesn't mean you're a party pooper; it means you're prioritizing what's best for your family in this season of life.
So, practice saying 'no' with confidence, and choose the celebrations that you have energy for.
Keep Baby Close
Postpartum life can be a whirlwind, especially during the holidays. Suddenly, everyone wants to hold the baby.
While we’ll be the first one to admit we love to hold the little ones, it's important to prioritize your baby's well-being and your comfort.
Our top tip for reducing the number of “can I hold them” asks? Keep baby close in a carrier. This not only provides the snuggles your little one craves but also acts as a subtle barrier, reducing the number of well-meaning hands reaching out.
By babywearing you can maintain control over who gets to hold them, creating a more comfortable and controlled environment for both you and your little one. It's a win-win!
Make Your Feelings Known
Standing up for yourself can be tough, but it's a skill worth practicing in the mirror, especially during the holidays. Practice expressing your boundaries with clarity and confidence. You can say:
"No."
"I'm not comfortable discussing that."
"I will do what's right for my family in this season of life."
"Thanks for your input, but that doesn't work for our family."
These phrases can help you navigate awkward situations with grace and clarity. Remember, setting boundaries is not only your right as a parent but a necessary step in creating a positive and stress-free holiday experience for your family.
We hope these tips provide you with the confidence you need to navigate the holiday season as new parents. Embrace the power of saying 'no,' keep your precious baby close, and communicate your feelings with confidence. The holidays are a time for joy, and by establishing boundaries, you can ensure that your family's festive season is filled with the warmth and love you all deserve.
Happy holidays from the Flourish Family Doulas!
